WORKSHOPS FOR MEN · ONLINE & IN PERSON · NEW ZEALAND
Confidence in bed isn't something you're born with. It's learned.
New Zealand's leading sexologist for men runs regular workshops, in person and online. Real, practical education on how female desire, pleasure and your own sexual confidence actually work, and everything that shifts once you understand them.
THU 20 AUG
What she wishes you knew - Online
THU 27 AUG
Keeping the spark alive - Online
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Reserve early
THE WORKSHOPS
Online from anywhere in NZ and beyond.
EVENING · ONLINE · NZ WIDE
Keeping the spark alive
in a long-term relationship.
A relaxed, straight-talking evening for men in long-term relationships. Online, from anywhere across NZ. This one goes deeper: a proper look at how desire and connection actually work once the early spark settles, and what keeps them alive for the long haul. You'll leave understanding what's really going on, and with something you can use straight away.
What really happens to desire over the years, and how to work with it
Practical ways to build anticipation and keep things alive at home
Why connection outside the bedroom is what fuels desire inside it
Camera off if you'd prefer. You don't have to talk or say anything.
Spontaneous vs responsive desire, and what it means for the two of you
Q&A with Rachel — no question is off limits
How stress, routine and everyday life quietly flatten desire, and what actually helps
Thursday 27th Aug
8pm - 9.30pm
ONLINE
Limited spots
$39
No travel required
WHY THIS MATTERS
Everything you were never
actually taught.
Most men figure this out through trial and error, if at all. What we pick up from culture, films and mates is largely wrong. How desire works, what actually brings a woman pleasure, and where real confidence comes from: all of it is learnable, and it's closely tied to how you show up and connect.
When you understand how it actually works, the guesswork stops. And everything changes.
Whether you're in a long-term relationship, dating, or somewhere in between — this is the information most men never get. This work changes that.
85%
of New Zealand men report that they don't feel confident in their sexual performance. It's not a personal failing — it's an education gap that these events close.
0
formal lessons most men ever get on how any of this actually works. That's the gap these sessions close.
"Most men tell me the same thing — they've never talked about this with anyone. Not a friend, not a partner, not a doctor. They've been figuring it out alone."
- Rachel Strevens, Sexologist
WHAT CHANGES
What men tell me
after they do this work.
01
The guesswork stops
When you understand how it all actually works, for her and for you, confidence becomes steady. Not dependent on a single good or bad night.
02
Connection Deepens
Men consistently report that this work changes their relationships and dating life. More presence. More confidence. More themselves.
03
The weight lifts
Carrying this privately is exhausting. Men who do this work describe the same thing first: relief. Then clarity. Then momentum.
YOUR GUIDE
"This isn't therapy. It's practical, and it works."
Meet Rachel -
NZ's leading sexologist for couples and men.
I'm Rachel Strevens — Sexologist, Sex Coach, and founder of The Passion Project. I work with men, women, and couples across New Zealand who want to reclaim pleasure, deepen intimacy, and stop leaving their sex & intimate lives to chance.
My work is grounded in research from the Sexual Health Alliance (USA) and the latest science on desire, attachment, performance anxiety, and sexual confidence. I've been featured in the NZ Herald, Capsule NZ, and Woman's Day.
The men I work with tell me the same thing: they've been figuring this out alone for years. They didn't need fixing — they needed someone to finally explain how desire, confidence, and connection actually work. That's what I do.
SHA QUALIFIED - USA
ANZCAL CERTIFIED
NZ HERALD
WOMAN'S DAY
DON'T JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR IT
Here's what the men had to say.
"Rachel creates a space that feels safe yet inspiring. Her approach is both fun and deeply insightful — she knows how to push you without making you feel overwhelmed. I can't recommend her highly enough."
SCOTT B. - COACHING CLIENT
Don't feel awkward or embarrassed. Approach it with an open mind and just do it. What have you got to lose?
MARK - PREVIOUS MEN'S WORKSHOP ATTENDEE
It really was educational, it wasn't a sales pitch at all, and it felt safe.
J.T. PREVIOUS MEN'S WORKSHOP ATTENDEE
I admired your forthrightness, and your thoughtful, caring approach to the moments that were harder to talk about.
B. L. - PREVIOUS MEN'S WORKSHOP ATTENDEE
Want to know what actually happens at one of these workshops?
COMMON QUESTIONS
You probably have
a few questions.
Is this for men in relationships, or can single men come? Both. Whether you're partnered, dating, or between things, the way desire, pleasure and confidence work doesn't change. You'll leave with information you can use now and in every relationship after.
How explicit is the content? Direct, not overtly graphic for the sake of it. Rachel covers real topics — desire, arousal, communication, confidence, anatomy & pleasure spots — using clear language and plain English throughout. The goal is understanding, not titillation. Men consistently say it's far more approachable than they expected.
Do I need to have a "problem" to be here? Not at all. Most men who come don't have a problem, they'd just rather understand this than keep guessing. This is education, not repair. You're not here to be fixed. You're here to learn what nobody taught you.
Do I need to bring my partner? No. These events are designed for men only. The insight you take home is more useful when you've had time to process it yourself first. Some men do decide to come back to a couples workshop with their partner.
Is this confidential? Absolutely. Any personal stories that are shared in the room stays in the room. The Intimacy Masterclass has a strict confidentiality agreement for all participants. Rachel also operates under professional ethics standards as a qualified sexologist and coach.
What if I want to work with Rachel privately after the event? 1:1 coaching for men is available and can be discussed at the event or via the website. Many men start with an event and move into private coaching from there — it's a natural progression. No obligation, no pressure.
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MEN'S COACHING
Private 1:1 Coaching with Rachel
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FURTHER READING
The sex education gap nobody talks about
Everything you were never taught about female desire, the orgasm gap, and why knowing this changes everything.