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Sexologist · Sexual Health Alliance (USA)
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ANZCAL Associate
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Private 1:1 coaching, for the conversations you've been carrying.
1:1 sex and intimacy coaching with The Passion Project is for women, men and couples who are ready to stop the guesswork, finally get some real, honest answers, and start treating their intimate lives with the attention it deserves.
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Sex is one of the most powerful forces in a relationship. When it's good, everything feels better. When it's not, it can quietly erode everything else.​ The frustrating part? Most of us were never taught how any of this actually works. That changes here.
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This is the most private, most direct, and most personalised work I do. We sit down together (online, or in person in Auckland), and we have the kind of conversation most people never quite get around to having. About where you are, where you want to be, and what's actually getting in the way.
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From there, we build a plan together. Real, practical, and grounded in evidence-based information about how desire, pleasure and connection actually work. The coaching program is shaped around you. Your situation, your goals, your pace. We cut through the guesswork and get to what actually works — and what actually feels good. No one-size-fits-all. Just real conversations, real curiosity, and real results.
And yes, I promise we'll have a lot of fun along the way. We're talking about sex after all — it should be fun.
"This is not crisis therapy. This is choosing more."
WHO I WORK WITH
Three doors in. One mission.
Same warmth. Same evidence-based approach. The work flexes depending on whether you are showing up alone, as a partner, or together as a couple.
WHAT WE WORK ON
The conversations you never quite had.
Every coaching session is different. Most clients come in for one specific thing, and walk away with a whole lot more. Some of the most common things that come up:
Desire and libido — why it changes, what it actually is, and how to work with yours
Orgasm and pleasure — how it really works, and the gap between what we have been told and what is actually true
Masturbation — your own pleasure, on your own terms, with none of the weirdness we were raised with
Use of porn — what it does, what it doesn't, and what's actually true vs the panic
Curiosity and experimentation — fantasies, toys, kinks, opening things up. The things you've been wondering about but never had anyone to ask
Sexual confidence — in your skin, in the bedroom, in asking for what you want
Talking to your partner — the conversations that should be easy but somehow aren't
Reconnecting — after kids, after stress, after a hard year, after life
Performance, pressure, anxiety — the kind that quietly takes up too much space in your head
Pain with sex — what's going on, what might help, and who else to bring in if you need to
Life after a long relationship — finally doing the work you couldn't do inside
Mid-life, menopause, hormones — what nobody told you about any of it
HOW IT WORKS
A simple, considered process.
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Free Intro Chat
Discovery Session
The Work
Wider Resources
A 15-minute conversation by phone or video. No pressure, no commitment. Tell me what's going on; I'll tell you whether I can help.
Your first 90-minute session. We go deeper. What you've tried, where you're stuck, what you actually want. By the end you'll have a plan.
Coaching sessions, online or in person in Auckland. This is where we do the work and start seeing the changes.
Pleasure Lab workshops, retreats, recommended reading layer on top. Coaching is the spine, but it's not the only support available.
Step one is a free 15-minute call. No commitment, no awkwardness.
WANT TO EXPLORE FURTHER?
Three good next steps.
WORKSHOPS
The Pleasure Lab
Group workshops if you'd rather start with a workshop than a 1:1 session.
COUPLES RETREAT
The Passion Retreat
An immersive four-night couples retreat in Rarotonga, August 2026.
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WHAT PEOPLE SAY
From those who've worked with me.
It felt deeply nourishing to step into a celebratory, educational, safe, and pleasure-focused space. Your generosity and sparkling zest really touched me. The conversations around toys, play and explosive orgasms continue.
MORGAN G.
Rachel creates a space that feels safe yet inspiring. Her approach is both fun and deeply insightful — she knows how to push you without making you feel overwhelmed. I can't recommend her highly enough.
SCOTT B.
She is the real deal. I'd challenge anyone to not feel more amazing about themselves after spending time with her.
NICKY B.
COMMON QUESTIONS
About 1:1 Coaching
What does a 1:1 session actually look like? All sessions are entirely talk-based — conversation, education, and guided reflection. There is no touch, no physical contact, and no somatic bodywork of any kind. A typical session combines real information about how desire and intimacy work, guided discussion, and practical tools to take away. It is warm, educational, and — more often than not — a genuine relief to be talking about this with someone.
Is this going to be awkward? Less than you think. Most people tell me, within about ten minutes of the first session, that it actually feels weirdly normal — because for the first time someone is talking about this stuff like an adult. You can ask anything. Honestly, there is nothing I have not been asked before.
Is this confidential? Yes. All coaching conversations are confidential and conducted in line with ANZCAL professional ethics standards. What is discussed in sessions stays in sessions. The standard professional exception applies: if there is serious risk of harm to you or another person, I am required to take appropriate action. This is the same standard across all health and coaching professions in NZ.
Can we do this online if we're not in Auckland? Yes — most of the couples I work with are online, from across NZ. We use Zoom and it works beautifully. Couples often actually find it easier to be in their own space rather than a different setting.
How long does this typically take? Most couples work with me over 3 to 6 months. Some shorter, some longer. The work is designed to give you skills you carry forward — not to keep you in coaching indefinitely.
How much does this cost? Pricing is shared on your free intro call, because the right structure depends on where you are and what you want to work on. What I can tell you is that most couples work with me over 3 to 6 months, and the investment is designed to give you skills you carry forward — not to keep you in coaching indefinitely. If cost is a genuine concern, please mention it on the intro call. I would rather have that conversation than have you not reach out at all.
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