The sex education most men received covered the basics of how sex works for men. How it works for women? Almost nothing. Most Kiwi men sitting in a high school health class learned about reproduction, STIs, and - probably not too much else. Female pleasure - how it actually works, what drives it, what it actually requires - wasn't on the curriculum. And the gap that created? It's still playing out in bedrooms across New Zealand, every single day. I see it in my work as a sexo