The Fantasies Women Aren’t Talking About (But Are Definitely Thinking About)

Wondering what the special person in your life is fantasising about this Valentines Day?

Well if the 850,000+ Instagram followers and nomination for “New Zealand Creator of the Year” at the TikTok 2025 awards are anything to go by, it might just be Daniel Rankin (aka @mancancooknz). 

If you haven’t yet had the ahhm pleasure of stumbling across his account yet – think toned, tanned body, dark soulful eyes, cheeky smile, often wearing an apron, and not much else. Although I think I’m forgetting something… Oh, that’s right, he bakes. Or more precisely, he films himself in hot, steamy, sensual video clips in the kitchen, doing all sorts of delicious, and sometimes downright dirty things to ingredients while he whisks, sifts, and bakes mouthwatering desserts and cakes. The only question is what dessert are his followers really after – the tasty treats out of the oven, or the man himself?

The saucy content certainly sends me into a hot flush every time, and judging by the number of online followers, I’m not the only one out there with a (not so secret) fantasy along these lines. 

It might be time for partners out there to take a leaf from the TikTok star’s book - oil up the chest, put on the apron, and get to work. And once you’ve finished cooking? Why not keep things in the kitchen - there are plenty of other uses for the benchtop that spring to mind…

Extra spice in the kitchen

But if your culinary skills are not quite up to the mark, or the kitchen sounds too hot for this time of year, there are several other food related ideas that are sure to satisfy some of her fantasies. The good news is they don’t have to cost you an arm and a leg, and are quick and easy to organise. 

A quick stop at the supermarket to buy a bottle of bubbly, a pack of strawberries and chocolate dipping sauce, and you’ve got the key ingredients for a night straight out of the spicy fantasy books. Dial it up even further by grabbing a few ice cubes and a pair of handcuffs (a business tie, belt, or dressing robe belt make excellent substitutes). 

The key with this fantasy is to take it slow, tease it out, and look forward to the sensory seduction. Remember that while the bubbles, strawberries and chocky sauce can certainly be consumed at some stage, that is not their primary purpose in this setting. 

Instead, this is all about the sensual tease - from ice cubes being slowly run over a hot body, chocolate coated strawberries being tease fed (don’t forget to “accidently” spill some sauce in other places, of course it will need licking and cleaning up!), to the pure bliss and cool sensations of the bubbly first being tipped over, and then lapped up from intimate body parts - I’m sure you get the idea. 

Power, control and consensual rough sex (cue the handcuffs for power & control), and novelty, adventure, and variety (thank you ice cubes, chocolate strawberries and bubbles), make up two of the top three fantasies that people have. So while a whole lot of us will have  heard about, or perhaps fantasised about, something similar before, don’t ‘yuck this yum’ until you’ve tried it.  And -  if indeed you have tried it - I doubt many of us would complain if this fantasy was brought to life again. 

Fantasies are normal

Fantasies are normal – the vast majority of people out there have sexual fantasies, and most think about them at least daily or weekly. They are also a huge turn on – for some people, just thinking about a fantasy can lead them to orgasm. Fantasies exist in our mind, and while we don’t expect all fantasies to become a reality, data shows that the majority of people hope to fulfil their favourite fantasy at some point. 

So while it might be a stretch to expect the TikTok star to appear in your kitchen with a rose between his teeth offering up a delicious dessert, there are some very easy ways to replicate a similar seductive scenario. Even just talking about your fantasies with your partner can help to build trust, improve intimacy, and spark the sexual connection.

And if your partner needs a little hint about some of the fantasies that are playing in your mind? Go on, send them this article as a conversation starter - you can thank me later.